Back in February I wrote a blog entry about the term Post-Gay. Some folks have taken to using this term as a possible replacement for “ex-gay.” In The Problem with Post-Gay, I wrote a little bit about it and also copied some comments from Peter Ould’s blog, one of the advocates for the post-gay term.
Over at Ex-Gay Watch Emily K recently created an Open Forum on Ex-Gay Labels. Emily writes:
The term “ex-gay” is probably the most common one used to describe people who enter into reparative therapy. One can call themselves “ex-gay” even if they have not shaken their sexual attraction to the same sex. After years of public scrutiny, groups like Exodus International can no longer declare outright that their single mission is changing one’s sexual orientation from completely homosexual to completely heterosexual. Even their leaders declare publicly that they “still struggle” and must pray daily to have the strength to “deny that which comes naturally” to them.
Recently, it seems the term “post-gay” has started to become more popular. Peter Ould and and Exodus V.P. Randy Thomas have adopted it. Rather than declaring one’s self “ex-gay,” as if nothing about them is “gay” anymore, “post-gay” supposedly acknowledges the fact that same sex attraction remains despite abstinence and prayer – the important thing being that one does not continue to identify as “gay,” but as “Christian” instead. It becomes about the “journey in Christ” rather than actually changing that core attraction. In fact, it is now apparently misleading to even refer to Exodus as an organization that “seeks to rid gay men of same sex attraction.”
Thinking back to my earlier blog entry on the Post-Gay term and in particular the insightful words that Glen Retief shared on the matter, I put on my ex-gay cap and travelled in time to that period in my life when I was ex-gay. I wrote the following comment over at Ex-Gay Watch.
In looking back at nearly two decades when I identified as ex-gay and one who struggles with homosexuality, I think a more accurate term to describe myself then would be ‘anti-gay.’ I stood opposed to a gay identity and same-sex attractions in myself. I went to war in order to destroy my sexuality for Jesus, and by extension I opposed the acceptance and advancement of gays who were comfortable about their sexuality. I discovered that the war within bled out all around me. I did this all believing that my actions were sanctioned and supported by God.
It took years to figure out that my religious motivation was a cover for homophobia and the effects of heterosexism.
These days I identify as Peterson, a happy, wholesome and holy homosexual.
To learn of some of the many reasons why I had gone ex-gay, check out my YouTube video on the subject.