Moving Beyond Ex-Gay

Later this month Beyond Ex-Gay, the organization I co-founded with Christine Bakke will take part in a the Anti-Heterosexism Conference in West Pal Beach, FL. Along with Soulforce, Box Turtle Bulletin, Truth Wins Out, The National Black Justice Coalition and Equality Florida, we will explore the role of heterosexism in society and in particular as [...]

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Videos of Interest: Ex-Gay lessons and a Transgender Minister

Ex-Gay Survivor Daniel Gonzales recently visited his childhood church to reflect on the lessons he learned about sexuality, particularly homosexuality and heterosexism, lessons that led him to try and “de-gay” himself.

In this one Daniel talks about the messages he received about gender conformity and giving into peer pressure.
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Transgender and Ex-Gay: Burnt in the Gender Melting Pot

Anyone who has ever been in any sort of ex-gay treatment designed to “de-gay” or “de-lesbian” them, will know that often the “therapies” extend beyond looking at sexuality and tend to dabble a lot with gender. We can joke about the football clinics for the guys and the Mary Kay makeovers for the gals, but [...]

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Ex-Gay Survivors–Christian, Post-Christian & Beyond

Since first connecting with ex-gay survivors in 2003, I grew to understand that many of us come down on one side or another of what would seem to be a great and even potentially combative divide. While many ex-gay survivors come from Protestant Evangelical Christian traditions (but by no means all–we have also been in [...]

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NEW Beyond Ex-Gay Community Site

Back in April 2007 when Christine Bakke and I launched the Beyond Ex-Gay website, we knew it was only the first of what we hoped would be several organic steps we envisioned to help support fellow ex-gay survivors. Our goal has been to help survivors connect with each other both on-line and in person.
Since the [...]

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Begging God to Fix Me: Questions about the Ex-Gay Way

Recently Christine Bakke and I received an e-mail from a 20 year old woman who visited Beyond Ex-Gay. She lives in a large city in the North East of the US. I spent time this morning with her questions and concerns, then I wrote a response. I imagine this woman represents the concerns and questions [...]

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Young Man forced to attend Ex-Gay Program

Some of you may have heard through Facebook or on the blogs about Bryce Faulkner, a college-aged man from Arkansas who many believe has been coerced to attend an ex-gay program. As far as we know, Bryce is not a minor, but is a college-age young adult.
According to Waymon Hudson over at the Bilerico [...]

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Ex-Gay Survivors On-Line

The current issue of the Gay and Lesbian Review Worldwide, an LGBT journal that comes out Of Harvard University and which provides “a forum for enlightened discussion of issues and ideas of importance to lesbians and gay men” has in it an article I wrote about [...]

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Demands, Desires and Dreams

Since first meeting her in spring of 2005, I have been impressed with the earnestness, intelligence, wit and thoughtfulness of Christine Bakke. For a time in her life she sincerely sought an ex-gay path in hopes of leaving the lesbian part of herself behind or at least to submerged that part through various religious-based ex-gay [...]

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Hittin’ the Road

After over three weeks, mostly at home in Hartford, I head out on Thursday to begin my winter/spring tour which semi-officially ends on June 8 with a few days here and there at home in between.
Yesterday at Quaker Meeting one of the Friends marveled at how I travel so much (about 70% of the time) [...]

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Ex-Gay Survivors In the Life

With their current episode Ties that Bind the award winning US public TV program In the Life focuses on issues of faith and sexuality and in particular the Ex-Gay Survivor Movement including footage from the 2007 Ex-Gay Survivor conference and the historic apology from former Exodus leaders.
In the segment they accurately and powerfully connect the [...]

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Doin’ Time in Denver

This weekend we had our Ex-Gay Exposé in Denver, CO in response to the NARTH Conference. NARTH is an organization that reinforces the ideas that it is wrong to be gay and that therapies exist that can fix LGBT people. (How can you fix something that’s not broken???)
Daniel Gonzales took a bunch of photos of [...]

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