Carol Boltz has been through a lot over the past several years. Well established as a married woman with adult children out of the house and grandchildren soon to hit the scene, her husband, Ray, broke the news to her (and then the rest of the family) that he is gay. The depression that had crushed him for some time afflicted him in large part because he lived with the reality that he could no longer hide.
Carol then did something amazing. Yes, she hurt, she felt confused, angry, all the things that one might expect a straight spouse to go through upon learning of her partner’s gay orientation. But then she looked for information. She looked to connect with others. She needed answers.
I first met Carol when she responded to a post about straight spouses that I had on this blog. We have since become friends and met in person on a number of occasions at ex-gay survivor events.
To make matters even more complicated, Carol’s husband Ray Boltz, is a public figure, a well-known contemporary Christian singer. After they privately worked through the many challenges and questions they faced over his coming out, their separation and divorce, they recently had to go through much of it again when Ray came out publicly. (You can hear one of his new songs here.) This has outraged some of his most ardent fans, while it has delighted many gay Christians. Carol has gotten caught in the crossfire.
Recently Carol launched her own blog, My Heart Goes Out… Please take a moment to visit the blog and share with Carol a word of support, a word of encouragement, a word of affirmation. She is a courageous and beautiful woman.